Perhaps part of the problem is looking at the world of human beings only through the binary lens of male and female. Perhaps it’s all about where one falls on the scale of being human. Perhaps it just sucks being human.
And, if there is toxic masculinity, is there toxic femininity, too? Perhaps the issue is being an outlier on either end of the spectrum. Anything that drives us apart hurts someone and, imho, many outliers like where they lie and look to push that on the rest of us.
Division and isolation tend not to be attributes that make us happy.