Well, a lot of men have responded to this with much of what I was going to say, and I do have, perhaps, an additional comment. Just to be completely transparent, I am a 62-year old white straight male (I’m renting my privilege, if you’d like to use it 😎). I have been with lots of women, some with “perfect” bodies (whatever that means), some…not so much. And I can tell you that if a man is into you enough to ask to do that, he’s attracted to you as a package, not any specific bit of you. So, if you’re unshaved, have an unflat stomach, saggy breasts, butt hair, whatever, the man has already decided that he wants to pleasure you. All of you.

And then there is the whole question of asking to do that. It makes me think of the Cheryl Crow song, “Are you strong enough to be my man?” There are times when it’s good for a man to take control. Good for both the man and the woman (the opposite is true too). Isn’t part of the fun of sex is that’s it’s (supposed to be) a safe place to lose a little control? Or, perhaps, a lot?

For a lot of men, cunnilingus is really enjoyable (as you can tell from a number of these responses). And, take it from someone who has had multiple “flavors,” once I’m anywhere near there I have no interest in whether it’s clean shaven, bushy, or it has dreadlocks (now…that would be interesting), all I’m really interested in is watching, hearing, participating in, and feeling of the effects of the pleasure I’m giving you.

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